"I’m tired of feeling like my opinion doesn’t matter just because I’m an able-bodied cishet white person"
Would you ask a lawyer on whether or not they think this patient needs brain surgery? Would you let the lawyer conduct said brain surgery on the patient? No, because they don’t have a medical license and that would be wrong.
Would you ask someone with no teaching certification to teach these students about science, which they failed throughout all their years in school, and barely know anything about? No, because then the students wouldn’t learn anything and would fail their science exams.
Would you ask some random person on the street with no clue how to do CPR, to do CPR on someone?
No, no, no, no. Because these people have no experience with what you’re trying to make them do. Maybe the person without a teaching certification would know 1 or 2 things about the subject, but probably not enough to teach an entire class about it and make sure those students pass their exams with flying colors.
Why? Because the teachers have more EXPERIENCE with it, the CPR certified people have more EXPERIENCE, and the doctors have way more EXPERIENCE than any non-certified person would ever have.
So why is it that people can’t seem to understand that “allies” can’t invade safe spaces with their opinions because they don’t have experience? They haven’t experienced the same prejudice these people have experienced (maybe they have experienced prejudice in some ways but not others. They should still stay out of the safe spaces those others have).
If you don’t have experience with it, you can’t act on it.
Listen to me. This isn’t about DINAH, this is about the fandom’s reaction. This is about the Camren extremists (emphasis on extremists so don’t you casual shippers come to me and say “we’re not all like that”) who are trying to use Dinah’s tweet as “evidence” to support Camren being in a relationship that Lauren has stated many times she’s not here for.
It wouldn’t be a big deal if said people would stop MAKING IT one and stop forcing their ships on the girls instead of just minding their own darn business and keeping their fics, art, etc. TO THEMSELVES.
HOWEVER, these Camren extremists DO make it a big deal by taking it way too far and using every little thing as “evidence” when it’s just… not. I’ll stop talking about this as soon as they stop doing it.
So with the recent influx of celebrities doing messed up things lately, there seems to also be an influx of people sending death threats, hate mail, etc. to fans of said celebrities.
Now, I understand that there are some fans out there that are saying “I’d still love x celebrity even if they murdered someone” or “drunk driving for Beeeeebz” and stuff like that, but those aren’t the fans I’m talking about (and even those fans deserve the respect of not getting told to kill themselves, okay?).
I’m talking about the fans who ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT THEIR FAVE DID WAS WRONG (which, actually makes up the majority of the people I’ve seen on here and Twitter) BUT still love them for other things as well AND THAT’S OKAY.
However, many people seem to not understand this. So many people I see sending messages like “eew, how can you still support this jerk after they did x jerkish thing?” or “I see we’ve already forgotten what they did” or (worst of all) “you should kill yourself if you still support x celebrity after what they did.”
NO, NO, NO, NO. STOP.
You see, a lot of these fans are ALREADY upset enough over the fact that their fave did this jerkish thing, and you’re just MAKING IT WORSE.
A lot of people’s celebrity idols are really close to their hearts, and they don’t wanna let go of them, even though they’ve done/said something borderline awful.
THAT’S OKAY. They acknowledge that it’s wrong and are extremely disappointed in them. WHAT ELSE DO YOU WANT?
Please, stop sending death threats. Stop sending any sort of hate mail in general to fans of the recent influx of celebrities showing their true colors.
Because odds are, they’re probably already hurting enough without you making them feel worse.
HOW THE HECK ARE YOU GONNA BE SO ANGRY ABOUT A PARTNERSHIP WITH BARBIE? WHY IS THAT SUCH A BIG DEAL TO YOU? ARE YOU REALLY THAT ANGRY THAT THEY’RE DOING SOMETHING WHERE THE “MAIN FANBASE” OR WHATEVER IS CHILDREN?
GIVE ME A BREAK.
1D’s management or whatever really need to stop getting so comfortable with their clients’s success. They think that just because 1D has a large fanbase, they don’t have to do any promo or, I don’t know, have Liam apologize for not realizing what his words sounded like.
They’re gonna act like this never happened and use the “ignore it and it’ll go away” method they used for the Zayn cheating story.
It may have worked then, but I don’t think they realize how publicized Liam’s tweets have been. SO MANY news outlets reporting on this mess. Their team or whatever needs to do SOMETHING.
And another thing. There’s been a serious lack of promo around this album. Sure, there’s been a few here and there, but not that much. Now, I understand they’re on break right now, but that doesn’t excuse the pre-break lack of promo.
See, posts like THIS are posts that take it way too far. Your fanfiction is fine (as long as you don’t share it with the celebs in question), your fanart is fine (again, as long as you don’t share it with the celebs in question), but acting like you know someone’s sexuality better than they do is WRONG. If Lauren tells you she’s not lesbian, she’s not. If Lauren tells you she’s not bisexual, she’s not. For a fanbase that claims to respect the girls, you don’t seem to really respect her wishes to stop making statements like this.
You don’t know her sexuality better than she does, so stop acting like you do. Making up fanart and fanfiction and what have you is fun and all, but you all need to stop acting like any of it’s for real. Because until the person in question confirms it (which she hasn’t, she’s denied it), it’s NOT real.
But NO ONE is “dragging” cis straight people. I don’t agree with the people who tell people to kill themselves or get raped AT ALL, because I think that’s NEVER okay to say (even to your worst enemy), but other than that…
When people hate us (yes, I said us) cis white people, it’s because after years and years of being oppressed and KILLED by cis white people, it’s kind of hard to trust that many of them, or any of them, and it’s kind of easy to understand why. Why would you WANT to trust them after centuries of them wanting you dead (and those thoughts still being alive today, no matter how much the school system wants to try to teach us we’re in a “post-oppressive” society)?
When trans* people and people of color make posts about how much they hate cis people and white people, I’m never offended. Why? Because if I know I’m not one of the people who’s killing other people, then I know the post is most likely not directed at me. And why would I be offended by it if it’s not about me? And if it IS about me, it’s probably for a good reason, and I need to listen to their reasons and learn instead of getting defensive.
My point is, they don’t hate us for being white, or cis (I didn’t mention straight, men, or abled (?) because I am none of those, but those apply here as well). They hate racists, transphobes, homophobes, ableists, misogynists, etc.
If you’re not doing any of the stuff they’re angry about, you shouldn’t be offended because they’re not talking about you. I understand why people get offended, I really do. Because you don’t want to have your whole race, gender, etc. thought of as bad because of a lot of jerks out there, but would you prefer being killed, denied education, raped, or thought of as lesser by society as large just because of your gender, race, etc.?
We as privileged people are able to just log off of tumblr and most likely never have to deal with any “mean comments” ever again, but they aren’t so lucky. They have to worry every day about being killed, raped, etc. just because they exist.
thismakesmetearbend said:While appreciate that 1d is getting noticed more, MM is not my type of music at all. I do like MM, but TMH is WAY better to me
I like it, but I like their 2 other releases much better. Maybe it’s just the fact that the music snobs talk about how much more “”“”MATUREEEE”“”” this album is than their previous releases, and how their previous releases were terrible and “not reeeaalll music”.
Please, it may be more mature in the sense that the lyrics include sex (and cuss words in the title track) but I fail to see how lyrics like “and if he feels my traces in your hair, sorry love but I don’t really care” are mature in any other way.
I also don’t see how going in a more rock, folk, whatever the heck it’s called, route is seen as “mature”. Like, how can just switching (or almost switching) genres make you more “mature”? There’s such a thing as mature Pop music.
Sorry, went off on a rant there. Long story short: I agree with you. I don’t think 1D needs the respect of these kind of jerks though.
Seriously, these PR people get way too comfortable/cocky with their people’s popularity and don’t do ANYTHING to promote the albums/singles because they think that since it has a certain name on it, it’s automatically gonna do well.
Well, newsflash, that doesn’t work. If it doesn’t work for Britney Spears (people don’t even know she has a new album coming out soon) or Madonna (album-wise I mean. Tour-wise it obviously still works), it’s not gonna work for One Direction or anybody else.
A big/dedicated fanbase is something to hold onto for sure, but it’s not everything. You NEED the General Public on your side, you need them to know that X artist or band has a single or album coming out or else it’s gonna do poorly. And then your paychecks are gonna be bad.
So stop getting comfortable. Just because your people (clients??) are pulling awesome numbers… doesn’t mean they will forever.
If they WANT to write their own music, cool. But who cares if they don’t? That’s not their *job*.
Have you ever been in a band with talent?
Or do you have a load of money to pay writers for you?
Love this blog, but this is truly and utterly wrong.
What this post should say is:
The difference between talented vocalists and lazy vocalists is that talented vocalists write their own material.
Lol at it isn’t the vocalists job… If the vocalist of a band doesn’t write his/her own material, they are technically a cheerleader…not a musician.
Half your job as a vocalist is to write amazing material, the other half is expressing it in a way where the people listening to your material understand what you are trying to convey to the audience.
I have never been in a band at all, actually.
And please link me to where it is in the title “VOCAList”/”SINGER” that either of those words imply you HAVE TO write your own music.
According to the dictionary, the definition of a vocalist is: “a singer, typically one who regularly performs with a jazz or pop group.” I see nothing in that definition that says ANYTHING about songwriting.
Maybe someone doesn’t WANT to write amazing material. Maybe they want to, I don’t know, SING, and that’s why they got the job as a SINGER? And maybe they KNOW they’re not good at writing songs, but they’re good at singing.
I don’t understand why some people would honestly prefer terrible songs written by people who KNOW they stink at writing songs to songs that are written by professional songwriters that actually know what the heck they’re doing…