“NOTHING SCARIER THAN A GIRL WITH A PENIS”
how much hate am i gonna get for saying i loved that line so much omg
Oh don’t worry. You’re already getting a ton of hate from me. :)
How bananas can you get at this point. Jane Lynch doing Super Bass. Awesome. Perfect. Good job.
but I don’t know how Santana’s bags were conveniently pre-packed for her when Curt and Rachel kicked her out. How is Fin affording to fly like, next day to NY. I feel like Glee Club…
While I completely appreciate how you responded to my opinion in such a sweet and informative way, I completely disagree with you. I’m not coming from a place of transphobia at all. What I with other genderqueer people would understand is that just as much as you have a solid view of what is right, so does the other person who doesn’t understand you. When you’re met with a statement like Ryders.. I’m not saying hes off the hook for approaching someone with that attitude, but you, as a trans person, have a choice here.
1. You could fly off the handle and verbally attack this cisgender person, thus further widening the gap between the two groups
Or 2. You could be the bigger person and explain that while you might have the body of a man, you may not have the brain of a man or vice versa. You could explain it calmly and maybe give someone the gift of understanding. If every genderqueer person took that approach, it could change a lot of minds.
Did you not see when Ryder DID listen and understand? It happened when whoever is catfishing him told him, politely and simply, that whatever Unique sees herself as is what she is, and thats the truth to her. I’m not saying Ryder was right, I’m saying that Unique, in my opinion, was wrong too. Deal with it.
ALSO, whether Unique is presenting female or male makes no difference as to whether or not she speaks on Drag Race’isms, so chill out.
While I appreciate your sarcasm, I haven’t changed my mind.
“Did you not see when Ryder DID listen and understand?” - Except he didn’t understand. He continued to refer to her as a ‘he’ to his friend Katie or whatever. Katie was like “this GUY truly believes HE is a girl” and Ryder was like “wow I understand now”. That’s not understanding. That’s not accepting. Unique isn’t a “he” and she KNOWS she’s a girl. The way Katie made Ryder “understand” is not how she should’ve gone about it.
I refuse to believe that what Unique did was wrong. After years of most likely attempting to explain to her parents, Jessie and whoever from that other school, etc. in a calm fashion, it’s internalized that calm just isn’t the way to go to get your point across.
I don’t think we’re ever going to agree on this topic though.
P.S. There’s such a thing as reblogging a link as text so that not all the original text is cut off
Just for future reference.
How bananas can you get at this point. Jane Lynch doing Super Bass. Awesome. Perfect. Good job.
but I don’t know how Santana’s bags were conveniently pre-packed for her when Curt and Rachel kicked her out. How is Fin affording to fly like, next day to NY. I feel like Glee Club assistant doesn’t really pay so well.
But then you come in a room and you punch up a dude and you’re like “SHES MY FUTURE WIFE” Hunty you can’t own womenz! This isn’t the 50’s!
and my final point for today is that Unique doesn’t handle herself well at all. You don’t just go off on cis people who don’t understand, if the genderqueer community wants to make it anywhere, situations like that should be treated like an opportunity to make someone a little less ignorant POLITELY!!
But Unique is just like “SAY I’M A GIRL! IM A PROUD BLACK WOMAN!! ACCEPT IT OR DIEEEEEE AT THE HANDS OF MY DRAG RACE VERNACULAR!”
> . > Grl ctrl urslf.
Umm… how about no? The trans* community doesn’t owe it to ANYBODY to educate their ignorant selves. Ryder DESERVED exactly what he got. If you’re really curious and want to be educated, try actually looking things up and LISTENING to people instead of throwing them down with the “no you’re a dude.”
What Ryder did was completely wrong and the fact that you think Unique owes it to his jerkish self to educate him on how to be a decent human being is completely wrong.
“Die at the hands of my DRAG race vernacular” - Are you serious right now? She’s a girl. She was NOT dressed in drag.
“You don’t just go off on cis people who don’t understand” - Again, you’ve gotta be kidding me. He was questioning her whole identity as a person. Why SHOULDN’T she have gone off on him?
Again, I say: THE TRANS* COMMUNITY OWES *NOTHING* TO JERK FACES WHO DON’T AND PROBABLY DON’T WANT TO EVEN TRY TO UNDERSTAND. THIS WHOLE “IF YOU DON’T EDUCATE PEOPLE YOU’RE NOT GONNA GET ANYWHERE” MENTALITY HAS GOT TO END.
Ryder, your version of “acceptance” aka still using the wrong pronouns doesn’t deserve a truce. Leave.
HE, HE, HE, HE.
STOP WITH THE INCORRECT PRONOUNS ALREADY.
Attention: Lesbians, gays, bisexuals, pansexuals, trisexuals, asexuals, transgender, transsexuals, genderqueer, cisgenders and the rest of the human spectrum.
This is Rad. Rad identifies as a lesbian, and she is 100% female. Recently she has taken the leap into telling one of the biggest secrets of her life.
She was a male to female transgender.
Yes, she was born male and identifies now as female and has recently completed ALL the surgeries in becoming who she is now: Rad, the woman we all know today.
Since Rad has come out as mtf on tumblr, with the love and support of her (not yet, but more than likely soon) girlfriend, Chelsea Skye, she as well as her girlfriend have received nothing but hate and threats from the anons of tumblr.
She is being told how she isn’t a woman, and how she is confused and needs help and being disrespected just for being who she is.
Her girlfriend on the other hand has been getting messages calling Rad horrible names, and telling Chelsea how she is a fake lesbian for dating a mtf.
THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE.
If someone identifies as female. They are female. If someone identifies as male, they are male. If you don’t understand it, ask.
DO NOT ATTACK SOMEONE FOR BEING WHO THEY ARE. IT IS THEIR LIFE NOT YOURS.
On tumblr in the trans* community we’ve seen too many good people fall in fear of being who they are. Nobody deserves to hear these things, and nobody deserves to be told they are something they are not, and absolutely nobody deserves to be attacked by grey faces with nothing but ignorance and negativity to say.
Rad, you are an absolutely beautiful woman, and you and Chelsea are absolutely the most beautiful couple I’ve ever seen. Don’t ever think you aren’t woman enough, don’t ever think that you will never be enough; because you are. I sincerely apologize for the ignorance of tumblr users and the way that they are treating you and Chelsea.
Please do not let the anons of tumblr get to you or make you feel down, scared or alone. We as the tumblr trans* community and allies have your back.
i’m in the same situation …my boyfriend is ftm…the thing is..i’m so tired of this stuff …and people being ..jerks and bad person…and justifying thierself with ignorance ….tumblr …i’m so sorry for doing this..but i will keep using the violence against people who are trying to hurt me or miky or us…and curse you couse i’m not afraid for losing “friends” or family…couse …he is my family and my best friend and all to me….i don’t like it…i really don’t but if i have to being rude..i will …also do you that sentence?.”violence make violence”…soo don’t expect chocolates if you are violent with me or my boyfriend……..and dude…all we want is live..in peace..toguether „and just that..
also…..there are trans-rules? …i mean sexuality is not the same as sexual identity….i always se this on tumblr
Unless you’ve been following the work of Monica Roberts, The Opposing Views and David Lohr over atThe Huffington Post, you probably don’t know that a trans teenage girl from Charlottesville, Va., has been missing for nearly 20 days.
Since Sage Smith was first reported missing on Nov. 22, there has been virtually no mainstream media coverage of her abduction. There has only been one local story produced, and in it reporters consistently use the wrong pronouns to identify her, and the story only mentions the name she lives by once, as though it were a nickname. Even worse, the local authorities who are spearheading the search for her have reportedly lost their suspect without much hope of finding her.
….The failure to show LGBTQ people of color as active and vital members of our communities and families perpetuates the dangerous stereotype that LGBTQ people of color are either nonexistent or that our identities are invalid. The media has failed to shine light on the targeted violence that trans women of color continue to endure. According to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, 40 percent of anti-LGBT murder victims in 2011 were transgender women; there have been 11 reported murders of trans women in the U.S. this year alone. The media have also failed to contextualize that violence alongside the discrimination that trans women of color face as a result of racism, misogyny and transphobia, and most Americans are unaware of these severe disparities in access and opportunity. Were any of these things factors in Sage’s disappearance? We don’t know. But by ignoring her story, the media are further alienating an already marginalized community and identity. We’ve seen this story before. Remember Mitrice Richardson? She was a 24-year-old African-American lesbian woman who was missing for nearly a year before police uncovered her dead body.
Praying for her safe return.
xX KCB xX
Breaks my heart